3 Bluffmasters That Baffled Me

Basically we are programmed to lie for different reasons; but mostly to escape a certain adverse situation. Study shows liars perform well at every front, though that doesn't mean I am somehow legitimizing lying or at personal front I am the epitome of honesty. I do lie when I feel it won't hurt andbody and moreover I don't have to keep the track of my lie by adding some more false statements. However, some people lie for their own benefits and there are some other kind of people who lie just to demean surrounding people. They really don't bother about others' feelings and that article is about three such bluffmasters and how they reacted when they got busted.

1. 'Helpful Gay': The first incident is about a guy who is apparently extremely popular among lesbians because of his 'helpful' nature. He offers his bedroom to any lesbian couples who are desperately seeking a place in this city to spend some intimate moments with each other without investing any money. When almost everyone from my known circle started talking about that popular 'helpful' person then I became curious and pinged him on one dating site.

According to him he is a gay but he doesn't have any boyfriend because he is not searching for any boyfriend for himself. Basically online he only interact with lesbians and even he works as sincere 'matchmaker' for them. He lend his support exclusively for lesbians. Somehow I found that person slightly different then others and started gathering information about him from other sources.

Finally, the extract of the ground reality is that, that person is a heterosexual male and he has girlfriend. Apart from that he has a certain kind of inclination for lesbians and he dreams of a wonderful threesome (or foursome) experience and that is his hidden agenda which he has already expressed. A highly educated successful person even not aware about that basic fact that why lesbians are called 'lesbian' or perhaps its just his perverted arrogance that doesn't allow him to acknowledge that reality.

However, when I confronted him then here is our conversation:

Helpful Gay: Yes, you are right. I have that fetish. But, I am not exploiting anyone, infact people of this community are exploiting me, therefore here I am at the receiving end, I am the victim.

Me: Why you are not approaching bisexual women?

Helpful Gay: Because they are dirty, they don't have any class.

Me: Do you know the definition of 'Lesbian'? I would suggest you please Google it. Since you are an educated person who has expensive smart phone with internet.

Helpful Gay: I really don't understand why you are giving me all these lectures? I am not bothering you.

Me: Mr X, that society is really small and I can assure you I am going to spread your hidden agenda among everyone you are bothering within next few days.

I blocked him and later spread the news among community members.

According to my last information he has left that city and now probably developing his network somewhere else.
2. 'Self Acclaimed Artist': Most of us dreaming about those wonderful moments of critical acclaimation when we would receive that from this society. However, most unfortunate part is in order to enjoy those few splendid moments we really have to create something worthy of it and more unfortunate reality is most of us are not basically a creative person, but that's really not a problem for bluffmasters. Because they would find their own way of creating 'bluffs'.
Its a story of an 'artist' who started posting flawless paintings of different celebrities online few years back. Initially she received lots of appreciation within community members and its boosted her energy by many folds and it made her hungry for more. As a result she created a Page and named it 'Zakhmi the Wounded'. Yes, as far as I can remember that was the name of her Page which was overnight success. Then one day I was reading the comment box of her page where someone (later others joined the conversation) was interacting with her and the extract of that interaction was something as follows:
Ms T: Why are you lying? That's not your painting, that's an App available online.

Artist: I don't know about any Apps. It's my painting.

Ms T: What do you think? You can fool everybody?

Artist: Why you can't accept that fact that it's my creation?

Ms T: Because it is not and I can prove that.

Ms P: I think the best possible solution is you (to Artist) take the pictures of your sketchbook and upload it here. We really love your painting and you should make us proud by doing so.

Artist: I don't think it's necessary.

Ms T: Hahaha. I dont think that's possible, because there is no sketchbook.

Artist: Why you people are so jealous?

Ms R: We are not jealous sis, but if you are honest then you should finish it once and for all.

Ms T: That is X App and I also use that app for fun but I don't fool anybody like you. You really need a life, since you're a low life idiot.

Artist: You $#@%^&$#&%....just get lost.

'Zakhmi the Wounded' disappeared from the face of net for good along with the profile of artist herself.
3.''Post Doctorate Parapsychologist Who is Also a Queer Research Subject of Michigan University Who Has Been Through Sex Re-Assignment Surgeries for Three Times Since Birth'': I have saved the most outstanding bluffmaster for the last. It was also few years back when I was running from pillar to post because I wanted to publish my research based articles and I was not aware about the technique. Since I am not a very bright student that's why a little bit of help was much needed back then. I came in contact with this person online. We got along pretty easily since I was doing my Master's and apparently she was doing her post Doctorate. I developed an instant respect for that lady.

Right from the beginning she was all about herself and would never missed a single opportunity of reminding me that I am much younger than her. Since both of us were of almost same age that's why I asked her why she is saying that and her reply was - "Because you're doing Master degree while I am doing Post Doctorate. So you are just a Kiddo to me." I asked her about some help regarding article writing and her response was - "Oh, your base is not prepared yet. Anyways it would take me barely 10 minutes to explain how to write articles, because I have over 130 published papers and those are available online. This is the era of open access publications kiddo!"

After that whenever I would raise the issue to help me she would always dodged it and instead of that would start her own story. By the meantime I learnt about her past. According to her, when her mother conceived her then she was a biological male but since her mother was a single woman that's why due to impending social pressure her grandfather pursued doctors to change her sex at infancy and she became a girl and introduced her as their own adopted daughter.

At the age of 19 she wrote a letter to Michigan University explaining her life history and one professor found her really attractive subject and sent her a mail to join him. She went there as research subject and in return she was offered a full bright scholarship. There she went through another gender reassignment surgery and became a man. Following that she started her own family with a heterosexual woman and simultaneously she was studying Parapsychology from Michigan University.

After few days she was feeling very uncomfortable with her body and she was also unable to give her wife the kind of pleasure she was demanding. Eventually she got divorced and after few months of her divorce she went through sex reassignment surgery for the third time and this time again she became a woman.

There were many questions in my mind. I got the information from my friend that at her home she didn't find any book (not even a laptop) and instead of books there was full of empty beer bottles and cigarette butts. That was the first red flag. Whenever I called her she was at gym working on her six packs. That was the second red flag. One day I asked about her research articles and she said those are at the 'Vault of Michigan University'. Since, according to her own words "this is the era of open access publications" and I can read her papers whenever I want then why something would be inside 'vault'?  I asked her "Are you talking about repository"?

Scholar: What is that?

Me: Don't you know what is repository?

Scholar: I know what is that but I want to know it from you.

Me: Why? I don't have to prove anything here. Because I am not demeaning anybody, I am not riding on preposterous tall claims.

Scholar: What do you mean?

Me: I mean I have published few research based articles already and I can show you those articles because its the era of open access publications. But, I can assure you, from your side the same is never possible. You can captivate others either like a human by putting a great amount of hardwork or like a spider by creating web of lies. Unfortunately you behaved like a bug instead of a human and showed your true face.

That day finally I had enough and I gave her what she deserved. After that day, she dissappeared for good and no one from our known circle has any information about her.

All these people were unique because they lied to demean others and that's why they deserve to be remembered. We really can't stop lying, but our lies should not be overwhelming even for ourselves. To be more precise our lies should not control our lives.

7 Fund Raising & Fund Management Procedures Of Project ‘Smiling Rainbow’

One participant of Pioneer Tournament asked me the question that – “how am I going to manage such an ambitious project with such small fund”? I like that question because that was a really thoughtful question which needs due attention. I know 'Smiling Rainbow' indeed a highly ambitious project and managing the project with such a small fund would be extremely difficult but fortunately I know it is not impossible at all. Because that entire project would be self-sustainable project and the following seven ways that I am going to apply to generate and manage fund: –

1. Minimum Overhead Expenses: – Initially I am going to maintain minimum overhead expenses by managing all the hard work by myself.

I have also converted my drawing room into an office space, thus I have arranged a rent free office space for my project.

All the equipments I will be using for the project are second hand equipments and the cash fund would be utilized in most wise manner.

2. Taking Help of Volunteers Instead of Paid Employees: – I have two best friends who would be supporting me as volunteers and they have also supported the cause by donating various second hand equipments worth US$400 (approximately). Once I start the project I am 100% sure I will be able to get more volunteers under one roof.

3. Not Expecting Overnight Success: – I am not going to hurry by putting unnecessary amounts in publicity, rather I am going to depend on ‘mouth to mouth’ publicity of that project. As per my estimate that project needs anywhere between 12 to 18 months to start rolling properly and during that period that project needs extreme amount of hardwork and I am ready to put that effort entirely.

4. ’24×7 Free Counseling’ – The First Step of Revenue Generation Process: – The very first step of revenue generation process is the 24×7 counseling platform where I would pitch them about indoor meetup events and would clear their doubts about these events and at the same time I would ensure them about their confidentiality. I would do that not to make money, rather I have observed similar kind of help most of the time bring positive changes in the person.

5. Arranging Paid Indoor Meetups To Generate Funds: – That project would start creating its own revenue by arranging paid indoor meetups on weekly basis. I have set a certain revenue target for these meetups and right from the beginning my target would be bringing the members on the indoor meetups tables.

6. Arranging Paid Outdoor Activities To Generate Funds: – My next target would be designing a pocket friendly 18 months long trip calendar for the participants where tour duration would be anywhere between 2 days to 20 days and minimum tour package would start from as low as US$40. I also have set a certain revenue target for these kind of outdoor activities. Once members sit on indoor meetups tables I would pitch them the outdoor activity calendar in order to give them ample scope of preparation.

7. Introducing Own Merchandise On Different Online Stores: – Once the project earns US$1000 then I would introduce our own merchandises and outfits through different online stores.

That project has many business plans in pipeline that would be introduced one after one. I have just explained few basic fund raising techniques here that I will be using at pilot level of this project. Basically it’s going to be a fully self-sustained project which going to create its own fund.

What Is LGBT Community Travelling Industry?

In Pioneer Tournament one of the applicant has asked me about the concept of ‘worldwide emerging LGBTQ+ community traveling industry’. Basically it’s not new since people of that community must have travelled before; at the same time that concept is absolutely new, because as a ‘community’ they have started emerging very recently and that newly found ‘sense of community’ needs more nurture and nourishment and thanks to modern communication technology, that gives us an upper hand in that journey.

So far it was about ‘an odd couple’ who are enjoying tour with a group of regular heterosexual couples. I have heard about many such incidents where homosexual couples have travelled with heterosexual couples and they could not revealed their true identity; they restrained themselves to display their affection for each other in public; they had to introduce each other as ‘friends’; for lesbian couples they were advised not to travel with another girl; most common question they had to answered that, why they are not married yet and above all constant pressure from the family (specially for women) regarding tour permission.

Now, under Project : Smiling Rainbow, at first group members would meet with each other in a place where their confidentiality would not be compromised at all. They would get to know each other at first through indoor group meets at some place. The next step would be planning one (or, more than one) trip with these groups where group members would get ample opportunities to live in a parallel world where if they are couple they would have the freedom to express their affection for each other, they don’t have to face any unwanted advice or any unwanted situation. Precisely, they can be just themselves. They don’t have to lie about their true orientation and they don’t have to deceive others by portraying themselves as something that they are not.

Most of the members of LGBT+ community suffered from terrible loneliness because they can’t find their ‘other halves’ and another problem they face on constant basis that is the feelings of alienation both at personal and professional level. That constant alienation develops complex psychological crises for them. Therefore, the basic purpose of that project would be offering them a parallel society where they don’t have to struggle to breath due to their sexual orientation. We take oxygen for granted until we start choking and for the members of LGBT+ community that ‘sense of choking’ is eternal. Above all, that project would respect the individual choice of its members of remaining as ‘closeted homosexual’ (specially in a homophobic society) and would respect their privacy at all cost.